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Prayer can be frustrating


My mom sang this little song when I was a child; it made me giggle. And it still does.

"How dry I am, how wet I'll be if I don't find the bathroom key. "

I have no idea where she learned it, but it came rushing back yesterday as I jiggled the handle of the women's restroom.

It wouldn't open.

I had the code. It was written on the conference room table, and I scribbled it on my hand before I left the meeting.

1523 ENTER

But it wouldn't open. UGH.


Prayer can be like that...we come to God, and the door doesn't open.

We know prayer is the key, and we pray. We punch in the code and wiggle the handle of heaven's door, and it won't open.

What am I doing wrong? I need this prayer answered.

I bang on the door, hoping it will open from the inside, "Is anyone in there?"

It doesn't.


Then, as I stood outside the door, desperate and nearing the disaster of a grown woman wetting her pants, someone came along and whispered, "turn the handle UP."


I try again...1523 ENTER. I...

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What Is Kingdom Confidence?


Kingdom confidence is very different from self-confidence.

Self-confidence is what the world says we have.

Confidence (noun)

  • a trust or a reliance that is applied to our own abilities, our own strengths, our own giftings, our own competency.

And for many of us, we're familiar with that. We understand what that looks like; it is basing our confidence in being prepared to do something.

We are told we have confidence when ready to do those things.


How do you grow in confidence?

I did a quick little search on how to grow in confidence, and the number one search result was that "you connect with your inner power, your strengths, and your abilities."

The world tells us we have to get skills; we have to go build our strengths.

And I am not opposed to any of that. Not at all. I am from the corporate world, and I have a file that's 10 inches thick, telling me all about the strengths that I have,  my giftings, and how to grow in specific skills.

I'm not...

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God Has A Gift For You


I had barely flipped the calendar over when my mom, sister, kids, and husband began to ask me, "Do you know what you want for your birthday?"

Sadly, no. The running list of ideas I have are gifts for someone else, and my wishlist on Amazon is full of business books, not exactly birthday material.

Why is it so hard? ‍

Do I have trouble receiving? I used to.

As I was sitting with God about this, He reminded me of a season of my life where God had a gift for me, and I couldn't receive it.

Can you picture the silliness of it? Here He was with this beautifully wrapped gift in his hands and His arms extended towards me. And I couldn't receive it.

I stared at the unopened gift.

Even knowing that what was inside was perfect for me, something I wanted and exactly what I needed.

I knew it was exceedingly and abundantly more than I could hope or imagine.

Yet, I struggled.

I couldn't bring myself to open my hands and let God give me this gift.


Because deep down inside, I believed I...

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God Wants To Speak To You

A deep ache was growing, and I heard a desperate plea in a dream. I saw a woman cry out, "God, speak to my heart."
At first, I didn't know what to do with this dream, so I sat with it.
Then I had another dream, where a friend asked, "Cherlyn, what's it like to hear from God?"
I immediately felt it.
My heart ached. The dream scene changed, and I saw the woman from the first dream again.
When I woke up, I was overwhelmed with the desperate desire women have to hear God's voice in this hour.
Yes, they want to hear God for themselves, but their tears were to hear Him for their families. They needed guidance and direction to make the right decisions. And they wanted wisdom for responding to their world in chaos.  
Their anguish had reached heaven, and God was letting me witness it.
I felt His grieving as I heard Cherlyn, some don't know I speak at all, and others don't know how to recognize my...
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What Do You Want God To Do For You?

I recently took a group of women through a powerful experience on goal setting.  Wait, before you close this blog thinking, no thanks, this isn't for me, or I've already set my goals, please, keep reading.
These women knew what to do.  They knew about SMART goals, they get a "word" for the year to anchor them, and they reevaluate their life wheel to see what needs realignment.
But as I asked God what he had for these women, something different emerged.
He had an invitation, and I believe this is for you (and me) too.
He asked, "What would you like me to do for YOU this year?"
I pressed, God, this question is not goal-oriented.
Yet he gently repeated, "What would you like me to do for YOU this year?"
You see, it had nothing to do with what any of us was going to accomplish this year.  Not at all.
Instead, God was asking what He could do.
What makes this so new?  After all, we're...
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How To Hold On To Hope


Ever since the time changed last month, I've had difficulty adjusting. Something about the shorter days and longer nights has this sunshine-loving girl feeling off. Of course, it doesn't help that I can feel the intense spiritual warfare in the atmosphere.

Maybe you can feel it too. The darkness seems to be pushing down on us, and sometimes it looks like the enemy is winning. It can be depressing. We can lose hope.  We can doubt if God will show up to save us.

God's people have been here before.

In Isaiah Chapter 7, the nation of Judah was shaken. Their enemies were pursuing on all sides, planning their destruction. Yet, The Lord sends Isaiah to King Ahaz with a message:


'Be careful, keep calm, and don't be afraid. Do not lose heart because of what your enemy has planned. This is what the Sovereign Lord says: it will not take place, it will not happen" (verses 4 & 7).


God was telling the people of Judah to trust Him and stand firm in their...

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How To Overcome Deferred Hope, For Good.


Ever had something you’ve been waiting for God to do, and you wait and wait, and wait. It could be provision, open doors, healing in your body, a loved one to come back to Jesus. It could be finding God’s plan for you or walking out the purposes you were created for. It could be a prophetic word you’ve received about your life.

You hold on to it; you stand on it, and for a while, you’re good.

Then, you wait and wait and wait.

You look at your circumstances, and nothing is changing. You look at your watch, and time is running out. You wonder if God will EVER show up. You feel stuck in that place called “the same.” The purposes and plans for you seem forgotten. Your promises seem delayed - indefinitely.

And you’re not good anymore.

You begin to waver. Doubt creeps in. Discouragement comes. And your current reality causes you to be cynical and slip into unbelief.

Has this happened to you, or is it just me?

When those expectations...

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Hope and Faith: When the ROAR Back is Stronger than Your Fear


In our eyes, it’s never a good time to go through hardships in life. Oftentimes, we have our sights set on this plan we created for ourselves and we work so hard for that goal. Then God calls us into something else that differs from that plan, which typically requires us to have hope and faith that our next chapter will be extraordinary.

Take it from me, a woman who felt crippled by my corporate job loss. I collapsed into my chair when I got the call that my position was no longer needed and began to spiral down the endless thoughts behind the question, “Now what!?” There were so many pieces of my life relying on this job that I thought I was meant to do.

When something like this happens, we go through this state of grief. I went through all the stages: disbelief/denial, anger, worry/depression, and then finally acceptance. It was not an easy transition to go through by any means. However, it did bring me to where I am today.

In my darkest hour, I was being invited...

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Faith Over Fear: How to ROAR Back When Life Goes Unexpectedly

I want to share a story with you about a troubling time in my life. When all was going well in my corporate job, it felt like my mission in life was fulfilled. I quickly learned that when Jesus calls and the world feels like it’s shattering all around me, nothing else matters except His true calling.

One day, I had a job and the next day, I was informed my position was no longer needed. I can’t tell you how much fear that brought upon me. All the questions ran through my mind about what to do next and what this would mean for my family. It took some time to accept that I needed to have faith over fear because the Lord’s timing is never wrong.

Life can change in the blink of an eye. However, I’m here to tell you that it is possible to ROAR back when things seem to go array. If you are in a similar situation and you’re looking for some guidance, I want to empower you to have faith. Use those struggles and turn them into strengths because once you do, you...

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4 Ways to Grow In Discernment


She poured milk over her Cinnamon Toast Crunch cereal, grabbed a spoon and sat at the table for breakfast. Her nose crinkled and her eyes narrowed. "Mom, there is something wrong with this milk."

Sure enough, it was sour and thankfully we had a fresh carton in the refrigerator and she sampled it first before preparing her breakfast again.

We know what good milk tastes like because we've experienced it. And when we taste something that does not measure up, then we are immediately aware that something isn't right.

We know the difference because we can compare what isn't against what should be. 

Our discernment is spot on when milk is bad, but what about discernment in other things? 

What is it, why do we need it, and how do we get it?


What is Discernment?

Discernment is the ability to judge well, to gain spiritual guidance or understanding.

When we discern we:

  • observe,
  • look with our eyes,
  • detect with our senses, and 
  • understand the difference in...
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